Tuesday, March 30, 2010

In labor

My water broke around 12:25 am and we made it to the hospital by 1am. I'm on my second dose of Fentanol (sp?) and its helping to curb the pain on the contractions. I'm trying to hold out on the epidural, but we'll see how long that lasts.
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Friday, March 26, 2010

Soooooo Anxious......

I can admit it. I'm soooo anxious and ready to see my baby and hold her and love her and kiss her and be her Mama! I can also admit that after my 38wk doctor's appointment on yesterday I was really disappointed to learn that I'd made no progress towards labor. My cervix is closed and high. Baby girl is in in rush to get here. Sigh. Does she not know how ready we are to meet her finally? It's been 9 long months! Only b/c I know that she's fully developed do I put this demand on her. My mama keeps telling me that I'm closer than I've ever been. Yeah, I get that but it's like being so close yet so far away.

I'm generally not a patient person, so this waiting is kinda a struggle for me. In part b/c I like to be able to plan and control things and when my labor begins is clearly nothing that I can control. This is a great opportunity, I suppose, for me to learn to relinquish my need to be in the know on everything and be in control. Baby girl will be born when its time, when she's ready and I'll just have to accept that I won't know beforehand when that is.....sigh.

If I wasn't being interrogated daily by coworkers and friends, whom I know mean well and only want to share in my joy and excitement, I think I'd fair a little better. If I had a dollar for every time someone said something like, "you're still here?", "when are you due again?", "wow...you're going to work all the way up the day huh?" I could retire a very wealthy woman. I try to just grin and bear it but it's soooo annoying. They just don't know that they are adding to my anxiousness. It's like people don't know anything else to say to me. Like we can't talk about anything but my pregnancy and/or babies. What did we talk about before I announced my pregnancy? I'm still an adult who likes to have adult conversations. Oh well, I give up. Hopefully, my last day at work will be next Friday, Good Friday. Maybe not, it just all depends. I have another Dr's appt scheduled for March 31st. I'll be checked again and again I'll be hoping for some progress. I keep saying that I won't get my hopes up, but I know me better than that.

The upside is that I am not at all worried or scared about giving birth. Maybe I've watched so much "A Baby's Story" and "Deliver Me" on Discovery Health that I feel like I've already experienced giving birth in its various forms. I love those shows b/c they show you the real deal. I do believe that I will have a favorable birth experience. I've been speaking only the positive over myself so that's just what I expect to happen. I don't really have a birth plan, per se, other than to endure the labor up to excruciating pain and then get the epidural. I'm open to doing whatever gets my baby here safely. No, I don't want a c-section, but if that's the best option at the time, then that's just what we'll do. I don't want a vacuum nor forceps, but if those are the cards we're dealt in order to get her delivered safely, then that's what we'll do. My mind is flexible in that regard..LOL. I don't want to be disappointed if things go one way and I expect them to go another.

In my mind, my water breaks, followed by consistent contractions and full dilation. An hour or so later after minimal pushing baby girl is born. See how pretty it is in my world? LOL

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Ugggghhh!!!

My hormones must be freakishly in overdrive b/c everybody and nearly everything is getting on my damn nerves! I'm so tired of being bothered with people and their damn questions and wanting to talk and me to listen to their pregnancy stories from yesteryear. I DON'T GIVE A DAMN! LEAVE ME ALONE!!! If one more person walks up behind my desk and says, "you're still here?" I'm going to reply, "No, I'm not here, you're having a hallucination and should probably call EAP and get yourself off drugs!" IDIOT!!! Do you think that I want to be here, at work, of all possible places? Hell No! I don't want to be here when I'm not pregnant much less at this stage of the game. If I could be home, I would be home, but unfortunately I don't have that option right now. If someone would like to "gift" me with some of their vacation time then I'll gladly and gleefully accept and ride off into the sunset. Otherwise, don't ask nor comment on my presence at this place of employment.

Secondly, if this chick sends me one more text asking "How are you feeling?" Listen, you text me twice a week asking me the exact same freaking question and I've given you the same response consecutively, tired, sleepy and ready to have my baby and be on leave. Its pretty safe to assume that's the answer from here on out. Don't keep asking me how I'm feeling!!! I've just started to delete her texts b/c they annoy me and if I respond I'll say something extremely sarcastic and hurt her feelings and that will be that. I just can't! I'm emotionally spent and people are constantly trying to tap the little reserve I have left. What makes it worse, these are all mothers so they should know what the hell the deal is!


Seriously, I wish that I could become invisible at will. I'm sleep deprived and tired, which makes me just a great deal irritable. It makes me not want to answer the phone, respond to an email, attend a meeting, interact w/co-irkers or nothing else I'm paid to do during the day. I have to pull off an 8hr workday on about 3-4 hrs of sleep. I'M NOT EVERY WOMAN, IT'S NOT ALL IN ME! I won't even get into the monotony of the work I do, that's a post for another day. Jesus please be a fence!


I'm not a mean person, but I don't like people invading my space nor my privacy. One lady has spoken to me and chatted it up more in the last 2 months than in the entire 5 years I've been in this department. What is it about a pregnant woman that makes everybody want to Oooh and Aaah? Leave me the hell alone before you make me cuss! SHIT!

Monday, March 15, 2010

37 Weeks = FULL TERM!!!

Wow...we've achieved yet another pregnancy major milestone. We are full-term!! This simply means that if baby girl were to be born anytime from this point on, she's considered a full-term birth although we're not quite at 40wks of pregnancy. Granted, there is obviously a benefit to a baby remaining in the womb for the remaining 3wks, 20 days or however you're counting it b/c its more time for the lungs to mature, but, if she were born today she would still thrive.


I am definitely at the point where I'm anxious. Ready for her to be born, but wanting her to be born when she's supposed to be....if that makes any sense. In other words, I don't want to will her here too soon, but I am so ready to finally hold my baby! Everyone warned me that the last few weeks would feel like the longest and this is soooo true. Luckily, I've had plenty of things to occupy my time but I do often wonder when she'll make her much anticipated appearance.


I'm still receiving gifts from friends and co-workers, which means there is sorting, organizing and laundry to do. I'm trying my best to keep her closet and dresser drawers organized. The child has sooo many clothes and one of my Sorors gave me a bag of clothes this weekend that her daughter has outgrown. There is literally not one single thing that we're currently in need of and that is such a blessing! The waiting is the thing that's going to drive me nuts! I need to know when when is!!! Baby girl knows when her birthday is, I just wish I knew too.

I'm pretty pathetic too. You should see me standing in her nursery, going through her dresser drawers several times reorganizing the very things I just organized a few hours prior. I love smelling her clothes, b/c they smell like baby. Her closet smells like baby too b/c its full of wipes, boxes of diapers and toiletries. Her little dresses are hung so neatly and all of her clothes are organized by size. My child also has several pairs of shoes already....something like 10 pair I believe. If she has a shoe thing, she will have certainly gotten it honest b/c I love shoes, handbags and fashion generally. Hey, I could have worse habits. LOL. Is it wrong to want your child to have the best of everything? I don't think so. I'm not just talking material things either. I want her to have the best health care, education, culture experiences, opportunities, etc. I can speak for G when I say that its truly our life's goal to be the type parents our daughter needs to facilitate her purpose. That's so important to her growth, development and confidence. I know my child has an extraordinary call on her life and it's our job as parents to ensure she reaches it. What an honor to be apart of her life's journey!
how far along? 37 weeks (have I mentioned that enough?) LOL
weight gain? 20lbs
maternity clothes? yes, will I ever want to wear regular clothes again?
how big is baby? About 6.5lbs and 19-20inches
stretch marks? yes, still very faint. My linea nigra is barely visible.
sleep? Sleep has been hit or miss this week. Some days are better than others.
best moment this week? finding out that I was "negative" for Group B strep (this was last week actually) and watching and feeling my baby's movements.
labor signs? not yet
cravings? a large Chick-fil-A lemonade w/the hospital crunchy ice and a Publix Boar's Head 6" sub. Not necessarily together.
belly button in or out? still in
what i miss? sleep
what i am looking forward to? the birth of my beautiful healthy, beautiful baby girl!
weekly wisdom? Patience is a virtue.
milestones? Making it to full-term!!


More on Baby: Congratulations-your baby is full term! This means that if your baby arrives now, her lungs should be fully mature and ready to adjust to life outside the womb, even though your due date is still three weeks away.

Your baby weighs 6 1/3 pounds and measures a bit over 19 inches, head to heel (like a stalk of Swiss chard). Many babies have a full head of hair at birth, with locks from 1/2 inch to 1 1/2 inches long. But don't be surprised if your baby's hair isn't the same color as yours. Dark-haired couples are sometimes thrown for a loop when their children come out as blonds or redheads, and fair-haired couples have been surprised by Elvis look-alikes. And then, of course, some babies spot only peach fuzz.

More on Mama: Braxton Hicks contractions may be coming more frequently now and may last longer and be more uncomfortable. You might also notice an increase in vaginal discharge. If you see some "bloody show" (mucus tinged with a tiny amount of blood) in the toilet or in your undies, labor is probably a few days away-or less. (If you have a heavier spotting or bleeding, call your caregiver immediately). Also be sure to ask your caregiver about the results of your Group B strep culture. That way, if the result isn't yet on your chart when you get to the hospital, you'll be able to give the staff there a timely heads-up if you need antibiotics.

It may be harder than ever to get comfortable enough to sleep well at night. If you can, take it easy through the day-this may be your last chance to do so for quite a while. Keep monitoring your baby's movements, too, and let your caregiver know immediately if you notice a decrease. Though her quarters are getting cozy, she should still be as active as before.

While you're sleeping, you're likely to have some intense dreams. Anxiety both about labor and about becoming a parent can fuel a lot of strange flights of unconscious fancy.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Twinkle...Twinkle.....

I see stars!? Yeah, at least I did this morning. It was the weirdest thing. I was sitting at my desk talking to my director about an account and then I thought I saw a knat fly across my face. I almost swung at it but what I thought was a knat was quickly followed by a swarm of light sparkles across my face. I blinked and tried to refocus and it was gone as quickly as it had come. I ate my oatmeal, grapes, drank my milk and water and took my prenatal and DHA supplement but was completely unnerved by the private starlight show I'd had. I asked my work mom/co-worker Jacquie if she'd walk with me down to the pharmacy so that I could take my blood pressure. Just to rule that out at least. So we get to the pharmacy and after about 3 failed attempts we got a reading of 120/91 w/a pulse of 102. The pharmacist was concerned about the bottom number and also felt that my pulse was a little elevated considering I had been sitting at rest for about 10 mins. She suggested that I come back before lunch to retake my blood pressure and I told her that I would. My nerves were all over the place. I begin to say a silent prayer that baby girl was not in distress and was ok.

We walked back to the office and I called my OB and left a message with the nurse giving her the stats and details. She called back asking a few questions: Do you have a headache? Are your hands and/or face swollen? How are you feeling? How long did the flashes last? If you were driving do you think the flashes would have impaired your vision? I honestly felt just fine, but at this point I was very concerned and wanted to ensure that my baby was ok. She said she would speak with the doctor and give me a call back. I went back to training a co-worker on one of my responsibilities that he'll take over while I'm out on maternity leave. Within 7 minutes my Blackberry started vibrating and it was my doctor's office. They wanted me to come in as quickly as possible so that they could check my blood pressure and urine for protein.


I quickly gathered up my things, logged off the system and headed out the door. Well, today its a rainy mess outside and I had a good ride ahead of myself. I work downtown and my doctor's office is at least 25-30 miles from my job+rain made it a long trip. They wanted me to get there by noon b/c they were working me in, but I didn't leave the office until 11:25. I knew I wouldn't make it there by 12 noon, nor was I willing to cause or be apart of an accident trying to rush. Plus all the anxiety wouldn't help my blood pressure situation anyway. So, I eventually arrived at the doctor's office around 12:15pm and was seen right away. I first had to leave a urine sample, which is never a problem b/c I can always go to the restroom. The nurse took my blood pressure and it was 120/80, which is perfect! This surprised me b/c I expected it to be elevated due to my stress of not knowing what the hell was going on. Then she weighed me, I'd lost a pound (or water weight) since my last appointment which was on Friday. Back into the exam room I go. After she asked me another series of questions, and provided me with my FMLA paperwork that I'd left with them last week, she measured my belly and listened to baby girl's heartbeat.

My belly measured 36.5cm and her heartbeat was exactly what it was on Friday, 146 bpm. She was fine, which makes me fine. Then the nurse reviewed the results from last weeks blood work and GBS test. I am GBS negative, which means I will not need antibiotics during labor and all of my blood work came back great! This was such a HUGE relief!! I was worried b/c I've never had the twinkle...twinkle..happen before. I prayed all the way from work to the doctor's office and God heard and answered my prayer. Thank You God that all is well :)

Monday, March 8, 2010

Get'R Done Mode!

Admittedly, I surprise myself sometimes and often I don't even know where the energy comes from. Saturday morning I was up bright and early starting chores. No, not chores for the house or chores for myself but for Little Miss. I started laundering her things; more blankets, onesies, socks, mittens caps, changing pad cover,picture and coming home ensembles. Then I had the novel idea to finally clean out my junk drawer. It was long overdue and I feel so much more accomplished having done it. The hospital bag is a work in progress. All of her things are packed, most of my things are too sans the everyday toiletries that can be added at the last minute. I still can't decide what exactly might be comfortable for me to wear during my stay and return home from the hospital. Not knowing what the weather will be like certainly doesn't help. So...I'm thinking of maybe some yoga pants and comfy tees. I seriously doubt that I'll be judged on my fashion sense during those few days there....and even if I am, I certainly won't care.

After the slumbering father-2-be awakened from his I-worked-all-last-night-nap, we headed out to Target and Babies R' Us. Target first b/c we had some returns to make and b/c we have the most buying power there due to the numerous gift cards we received at our shower. Unfortunately, the in-store selection is not all that great, so we've been relegated to purchasing online for most things. Babies R' Us proved to be a quick headache when the customer service lady did not want to take an item back b/c it did not have a tag. Well, I could understand that if there were several of the very same items hanging on the racks! I don't know why the tag was removed, maybe it was a re gift, I don't know, but we weren't able to return it. So now I have two of those items.

Once we returned home I started yet another load for Little Miss. This time laundering cloth diapers which I'll use as burp clothes and as the go-between her and the changing pad b/c I can already see that thing getting dirty daily, and her waterproof mattress pad cover. Basically, everything that will touch her directly or is hers has been laundered or will be. I even took apart her Chicco car seat and laundered it in the highly revered Dreft detergent. I hope my baby doesn't have a reaction to that stuff b/c that's all I've been using b/c that's what everyone has recommended. We even purchased more of the stuff on Saturday....we will soon find out. Sunday night we ordered the Pack n' Play/Bassinet thingy from Wal-Mart. We had a gift card that we could use there to help defray the cost, which is always a good thing. Its scheduled to deliver to our local Wally World between the 17th and the 21st. Hopefully sooner rather than later.

I'm so excited! I keep going into her room looking at her little socks and outfits just trying to imagine her in them. I'm going to be a mother real soon and I'm thrilled beyond belief! The countdown continues!

Friday, March 5, 2010

30 DAYS!!!!


I can't believe I'm here already. Entering my 9th (and hopefully final) month of pregnancy. (There is a phenomenon known as a 10th month of pregnancy, once you hit 41 wks, but we need not have those type discussions here...k...thanks). I am a calendar day away from the official expected due date of April 5th. I can't help but to wonder if my darling daughter will fall within the 5% and come on the day it's been calculated that she should arrive. I seriously doubt it, but I am hopeful that she will make her grand appearance no later than the 40th week of pregnancy. I certainly don't want to go into post-term pregnancy. Too early or too late, neither is great, but late is better than early I suppose.

In preparation for the great maternity leave, I had a meeting on Tuesday with my management team. They have been so awesome during my pregnancy. The discussion points were who's going to take on my workload while I'm out for 12 weeks (that's right, 12 long, lovely weeks to recuperate and bond w/my daughter). The irony is that it takes 3 managers to do the work of one Sr. Analyst, me; but that's a discussion for a different day. I do a lot and have a huge responsibility with a lot of exposure and being away will perhaps allow the "powers that be" to see just how critical my role and talents truly are. Oftentimes people don't realize what they have until its gone.

I really need to shift into get'r done mode. I've been slacking lately and resting mostly. The workday is wiping me out and when I get home I find myself on the sofa in dire need of a nap, and who am I to fight sleep? I just really don't like having things undone. My hospital bag is only partially packed, I still need to launder things for baby girl, I have a ton of thank you cards to write out and mail, we need to install the car seat bases in our cars, there are still things we need to purchase from our registry that we didn't receive from the shower last Saturday and I'm certain that there's something else I'm forgetting to remember right now. Gifts have been coming in the mail all week from friends that couldn't make the shower and we are really appreciative. The love shown to us has been amazing! Not to mention that my friends and co-workers are giving me a shower on Thursday. That's 3 showers! How can I not personally write thank you notes to them all. I'll get it done. I'll get it all done b/c that's just who I am and how I operate. Maybe not as quickly as I'd like, but it will all be done.

Oh yeah, I received the link from my photographer, so the shower pics are up. If I can find the energy I will add a few pics here over the weekend. No promises though b/c its suppose to be a nice weekend w/plenty of sun and warmth and I'm bound to be out enjoying it. So maybe I'll just say I'll add pictures soon...yeah, that's more realistic...LOL
This Friday is one of my favorite Fridays. It's a short one for me b/c I have a doctor's appointment and will be leaving the office for the day at 1pm!!! I believe they'll be taking blood and giving me the GBS test today and then the regular routine. I do love to hear my baby's heartbeat. She's so active now that I know she's doing well and thats really reassuring. However, there is nothing as reassuring as holding your healthy baby in your arms. COUNTDOWN TO SHOWTIME!!!

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

35/35

I reached yet another milestone on Monday. 35wks pregnant and 35 days to go! I can see the light at the end of the tunnel! Wow...time is really flying now. I sometimes wonder if I'll miss having my baby on the inside once she's born. I've read that a lot of mothers sometimes get pregnancy withdrawal once the kid is born into the world. I can certainly understand that. It's like while pregnant you don't really have to share him/her with anyone else. She's all yours and then once she's born you have to share. Pregnancy is truly a special time in a woman's life. I mean, lets go deep here for a sec....who else has heard your heartbeat from the inside? No one! You alone get to experience her sleep/wake/activity schedule long before anyone else. You get an insight into the personality of your child based on how active or inactive she is. How and when she awakes you at o'dark thirty in the morning b/c it's time to eat. I suppose I'll miss those things, but more than anything I will cherish having my baby girl in my arms and watching her grow and mature. Such a precious gift and privilege to mother. I'm excited and totally up for the challenge!

how far along? 35wks 1 day

weight gain? 16lbs

maternity clothes? yes, will I ever want to wear regular clothes again?
how big is baby? About 5.5lbs and 20inches

stretch marks? yes, still very faint. My linea nigra is barely visible.

sleep? Sleep? What the hell is that and where can you purchase it?

best moment this week? hearing baby girl's heartbeat

movement? yes, she's my little karate kid

labor signs? none, thank God!

cravings? whatever sounds good at the moment. It's fleeting. Yesterday it was Girl Scout Thin Mint cookies

belly button in or out? in, but stretching a great deal horizontally

what i miss? SLEEP!!!

what i am looking forward to? the birth of Olivia Gabrielle!!!

weekly wisdom? There isn't much that amazes me these days but the pregnancy experience is a mighty, awesome wonder.

milestones? Starting weekly appointments Friday!!!!

More on baby: Your baby doesn't have much room to maneuver now that she's over 18 inches long and tips the scales at 5 1/4 pounds (pick up a honeydew melon). Because it's so snug in your womb, she isn't likely to be doing somersaults anymore, but the number of times she kicks should remain about the same. Her kidneys are fully developed now, and her liver can process some waste products. Most of her basic physical development is now complete — she'll spend the next few weeks putting on weight.
More on mama-to-be: Your uterus — which was entirely tucked away inside your pelvis when you conceived — now reaches up under your rib cage. If you could peek inside your womb, you'd see that there's more baby than amniotic fluid in there now. Your ballooning uterus is crowding your other internal organs, too, which is why you probably have to urinate more often and may be dealing with heartburn and other gastrointestinal distress. If you're not grappling with these annoyances, you're one of the lucky few.From here on out, you'll start seeing your practitioner every week. Sometime between now and 37 weeks, she'll do a vaginal and rectal culture to check for bacteria called Group B Streptococi (GBS). (Don't worry — the swab is the size of a regular cotton swab, and it won't hurt at all.) GBS is usually harmless in adults, but if you have it and pass it on to your baby during birth, it can cause serious complications, such as pneumonia, meningitis, or a blood infection. Because 10 to 30 percent of pregnant women have the bacteria and don't know it, it's vital to be screened. (The bacteria come and go on their own — that's why you weren't screened earlier in pregnancy.) If you're a GBS carrier, you'll get IV antibiotics during labor, which will greatly reduce your baby's risk of infection.This is also a good time to create a birth plan. Childbirth is unpredictable, and chances are you won't follow your plan to the letter, but thinking about your choices ahead of time — and sharing your preferences with your caregiver — should take some of the anxiety out of the process.